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[astri13]

I didn`t want to write anything more on this topic but what the heck I`m under serious medication. :)

So, full disclosure: I`m a woman. I like being a woman. It gives me advantages and disadvantages. However, how I approach both life and fictional situations is never: how does it affect me as a woman? How I approach things is always:
How does that make me feel as a person?

Because being a person defines me way before being a woman, a redhead, a lefty, a geek etc. And in that question I also look at the gender of the people involved second and their personalities first. Do they put me off? If so to what degree? Do they have kinks I can "live" with or not? I know I have my kinks and so do my friends and it`s basically the same there.

Context always matters. Especially in fictional universes. If fictional universes establish situation X, I`ll go by situation X if I value certain situations. Now I realize not everybody will go that way but I do.

Therefore, did I see an amped up fratboy humour in Season 3? Yes. Did I read misogyny in the show? No. In any of the characters? No.
It doesn`t fit my criteria for such and I will not apologize for that. I can explain as to why I feel this way but I won`t defend my right to feel this way. Because I don`t have to. That which doth offend you, doth not offend me. Simple as that.

Doesn`t make me silly, a hater, a shamer, an apologist, a bad woman or anything else. It means I have a different outlook in life. And unlike bodies in physics more than one opinion can be right and in one place at the same time.

Which is really all I have to say on the subject.

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[susannaheanes.livejournal.com]

I DO feel equal to men and frankly I feel that as such it would needlessly victimize myself to always look for victimizations of myself. If that makes sense.

That makes all kinds of sense. Honestly. It does. I am amazed at your perception, and the ability to put words to exactly what I feel. So glad.

BTW - I just de-friended you at prettyfreckles, my whiny personal navel-gazing LJ because I had to make a policy change over there & defriend everyone who had never friended me back. But I'm friending you at this one, which is open and less on a personal, gut-wrenching level. Just in case you noticed. Because it isn't personal, but apparently several of my f-locked posts are getting passed around fandom right now, and I had to try to stop the leak. I'm not a wanker, and I thought I could trust people. Apparently not.

Anyway, if you want to friend me back great, otherwise, it doesn't really matter. I can keep up with your awesomeness at this LJ, so I won't miss any more of this sort of thing. Thank you so much for all this.

[astri13.livejournal.com]

No prob about the defrieding. I find it sad when flocked stuff is gossiped on. I flock a post because I don`t actually want it to be spread. And even if someone at my flist violently disagrees with me, I`d expect enough respect to keep private private and defriend the hell out of me.

Also, friended bacl.

[prettyfreckles.livejournal.com]

thank you so much! you are truly awesomesauce. looking forward to getting to know you better.