Amen, Astri. I want to scream everytime I see it. Dean and John clearly have very different personalities. Dean and Sam clearly have very different personalities. That's why Dean and John worked and Dean and Sam worked but John and Sam DID NOT work. That's why John could say of Dean in IMToD that he "never complained". It's why Sam could say in Salvation that he always knew he could count on Dean.
Dean's reasons for acting like he is now, as badly set up as Croatoan was, are coming from an entirely different place and in any case it isn't like John or Sam. It's like Dean. And I think that's why Sam had such a hard time with it esp. at first. He was using himself as a guide and it just wouldn't work because Dean's coming from such a different place personality-wise. Whereas Dean had experience of getting outside himself for it with Sam, not only just from dealing with Sam but from dealing with his dad.
One thing I think we've seen now is that while Sam is gentle and empathetic with the PiP's oftentimes it's not necessarily coming from a very deep place.(see The Usual Suspects for an example). That doesn't mean that Sam doesn't feel for them just like just because Dean doesn't go overboard on the sympathy doesn't mean that Dean doesn't feel for them most of the time - but it does mean that Sam's better at putting on a show and seeming to care, in their eyes, more than he probably does. He and Dean most likely aren't caring, most of the time, more or less than the other.
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Dean's reasons for acting like he is now, as badly set up as Croatoan was, are coming from an entirely different place and in any case it isn't like John or Sam. It's like Dean. And I think that's why Sam had such a hard time with it esp. at first. He was using himself as a guide and it just wouldn't work because Dean's coming from such a different place personality-wise. Whereas Dean had experience of getting outside himself for it with Sam, not only just from dealing with Sam but from dealing with his dad.
One thing I think we've seen now is that while Sam is gentle and empathetic with the PiP's oftentimes it's not necessarily coming from a very deep place.(see The Usual Suspects for an example). That doesn't mean that Sam doesn't feel for them just like just because Dean doesn't go overboard on the sympathy doesn't mean that Dean doesn't feel for them most of the time - but it does mean that Sam's better at putting on a show and seeming to care, in their eyes, more than he probably does. He and Dean most likely aren't caring, most of the time, more or less than the other.