I admit it is a personal pet peeve of mine because I do know females and males alike who treat younger adults in that entitled paternal way and I just find that offensive. My uncle does it with my all the time, talking down to me like some dumb kid and it`s my red flag. My mom can still mom me, my grandfather and grandmother whom helped raise me on a daily basis had a comfort zone with that even when I was technically an adult. Same for our long-time neighbour.
If she had said "Cram the attitude" or "I don`t have to take this shit, there`s door" it would have been fine but I absolutely can`t stand it to use words like you would to a naughty 4year old. For me that`s socially retarted. For me there is a clear distinction how you speak to an adult and how you do to a child, with some leeway with an adult you knew well as a child. Period. So it`s not so much the fact what she did or didn`t do with Dean as the fact that that`s obviously a way her character finds acceptable interaction that reflects badly on her for me. If she adressed another hunter like this, old or young I`d groan all the same.
I do agree that Ellen seems to genuinely like Dean though while I constantly wondered what Missouri`s problem was with him. I wouldn`t have taken her shit from my actual mother, not to mention a stranger. And he came off like a way better person than I would have been to still help her down the stairs at the end and remain polite throughout to her.
Lastly, and this is probably cultural disconnect but where I`m from if you used "boy" in that tone and inflection like Missouri and Ellen did, it would be considered beyond rude. More like a clear insult in purposefully talking to a person like you would to a dog.
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Date: 2006-10-31 01:35 pm (UTC)My uncle does it with my all the time, talking down to me like some dumb kid and it`s my red flag. My mom can still mom me, my grandfather and grandmother whom helped raise me on a daily basis had a comfort zone with that even when I was technically an adult. Same for our long-time neighbour.
If she had said "Cram the attitude" or "I don`t have to take this shit, there`s door" it would have been fine but I absolutely can`t stand it to use words like you would to a naughty 4year old. For me that`s socially retarted. For me there is a clear distinction how you speak to an adult and how you do to a child, with some leeway with an adult you knew well as a child. Period.
So it`s not so much the fact what she did or didn`t do with Dean as the fact that that`s obviously a way her character finds acceptable interaction that reflects badly on her for me. If she adressed another hunter like this, old or young I`d groan all the same.
I do agree that Ellen seems to genuinely like Dean though while I constantly wondered what Missouri`s problem was with him. I wouldn`t have taken her shit from my actual mother, not to mention a stranger. And he came off like a way better person than I would have been to still help her down the stairs at the end and remain polite throughout to her.
Lastly, and this is probably cultural disconnect but where I`m from if you used "boy" in that tone and inflection like Missouri and Ellen did, it would be considered beyond rude. More like a clear insult in purposefully talking to a person like you would to a dog.